That leads me to one question...
What, exactly, does sick look like?
|This is my favorite|
Does someone with congestive heart failure (CHF) look sick? They get short of breath with activity and can have swelling in their legs and feet. They could go into the hospital at any minute. But by looking at someone with CHF, can you tell? While clothed you can't see the swelling and you can't "see" shortness of breath. Are they sick?
And how about Mitochondrial Disease? People with mito have a wide array of symptoms, just like those with MS. We have extreme fatigue, muscle weakness and pain (many times severe), slow or no GI motility (movement), problems with vision or hearing, failure of the autonomic nervous system (which causes a wide array of symptoms itself), and many more. Many of us have to use a wheelchair to get around, at least if we want to get very far we do. (I'm included in that group.)
|...and a lot of alcohol and some acting|
classes and I'll be sick for the next
So, if none of the people with diseases mentioned above look sick, what exactly does sick look like? If you're sick does that mean you always look pale? Do you have to be missing your hair? Do your eyes have to be sunken in with dark circles underneath? Do you have to be emaciated? Do sick people have to frown and look miserable ALL the time? Do you have to be so sick that you can't get out of bed 100% of the time?
|I've felt this way before.|
Everyone needs to learn that it is almost insulting to say "You don't look sick" to someone who is sick and feels sick every day of the week.
And in case you need a reminder of the other things not to say to someone with a chronic illness...
|You'd be surprised how many times I've heard these statements or something similar.|
Sorry for all the pictures... I just couldn't choose. :-)